A relationship without intimacy is doomed to failure, but there are ways to work on it and recover it.

It is essential to find a way to regain the intimacy that is lost in relationships. This is something that happens easily and naturally at first, but intimacy, like trust, can be lost for many reasons and problems, and that can cause the relationship to be completely destroyed.

And intimacy is not just physical, it is not just about sex, it is also emotional, which is what leads to building a strong bond between people, to there being trust, closeness and many other things that are needed to that relationships survive and lead everyone involved to feel safe and happy.

Furthermore, when there is no emotional intimacy, there probably isn't much sexual intimacy either, which can lead to the couple stopping having sex or physical contact, as one or both of them feel insecure, rejected, misunderstood and unsatisfied, and with Over time that can cause them to give up on the relationship completely.

The good news is that psychologists have studied this topic for a long time and through this they have discovered some ways, tools and resources that are of great help when you want to regain intimacy to save the relationship.

What can you do to regain intimacy?

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Spend more time together

According to the Mental Help site, the most important tool needed to regain intimacy is to spend more time together, since psychology says that the bond between people strengthens the more hours they spend together.

And it doesn't mean that now you have to have sex every day or live together, but it is important to make space to go on dates again, do shared activities, watch a series together or other similar things, so that the problems end. pretexts and distance, real and metaphorical, is eliminated. But, it must be clarified that the time you spend together must be quality time, it is not enough to simply be in the same space, but each one in something different.

Technology-free moments

Phones are great tools for staying connected and informed, but they can also be great distractions. They may be the reason why no one has conversations anymore, meals are eaten in silence, and moments before bed are spent staring at a screen.

Many experts recommend having some moments free of phones and screens , to promote eye contact, conversations and so that you can have activities together that are truly shared.

Schedule sex on your calendar

Sexual intimacy is very important in relationships, so sex should be a priority, especially if you have already realized that you are growing apart as a couple and that your sex life is not going so well.

Spontaneous sex can be great, but it's also a good idea to schedule some sessions. The thing is that it can get to the point where there are many priorities, responsibilities and activities that are always on priority and that can make sex take a backseat, so having a calendar and a time reserved for this can help that they recover their rhythm and that they recover that physical aspect of the relationship.

You have to dare to speak

Yes, there are conversations that are complicated, painful, vulnerable or difficult, but they must be had, honestly, clearly and with a lot of openness.

Communication is important in all types of relationships, especially in relationships, since through it you can discover what is not working, how your problems can be solved, what is missing and what each person needs, in addition to the fact that in this way the root of many problems can be found and they can heal together.

That physical contact is not only sexual

Physical intimacy does not refer only to sex, but to physical contact, such as holding hands, hugging, sleeping very close to each other, and small displays of affection, which can be done in public.

A good way to regain that intimacy is to get used to having physical contact, even when you are not going to have sex, since, according to Tavistock Relationships, this communicates that you are together and that there is interest and a connection.

[via GQ Mexico]