There’s an old Nguni saying: “Inyathi ibuzwa kwabaphambili” loosely translated, it means wisdom is sought from those who have walked the path before us.
There’s another one that rings just as true: “Inqondo yemveli ayohlulwa”, which loosely translates to God’s gift in wisdom surpasses man-made knowledge.
In a world overflowing with parenting books, online forums and well-meaning advice from strangers, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by conflicting information about how to care for a newborn.
But before Google and parenting blogs, our gogos were the keepers of knowledge, passing down time-honoured traditions that kept generations of babies thriving.
As a new parent, it’s natural to worry about doing everything “right.” But sometimes, the most valuable insights come not from science alone but from the deeply rooted wisdom of our ancestors.
Let’s revisit some of our gogo-approved advice that has stood the test of time and learn how it still applies in today’s modern world.
1. No visitors for three months: protecting baby from spirits and illness
In many South African households, it’s common for elders to advise against visitors in the first three months of a baby’s life. While this may seem overly cautious, there’s deep wisdom behind it.
Newborns have delicate immune systems, making them more vulnerable to infections. In African spirituality, it is also believed that babies are susceptible to negative energies and spirits during this time.
Many families prefer to keep their little ones shielded, allowing them to grow stronger before being introduced to the outside world.
Modern science supports this tradition: keeping visitors to a minimum in the first few weeks can reduce the risk of infections, overstimulation and anxiety for both baby and mother.
Pro tip: if family and friends insist on visiting, ask them to wash their hands before holding the baby, avoid kissing the newborn and that they should stay at home if they are feeling unwell.
2. Sleep when the baby sleeps
If there’s one universal piece of advice that our elders swore by, it’s “sleep when the baby sleeps.” And yet, modern parents often ignore it, choosing instead to clean the house, catch up on messages or binge-watch TV while the baby naps.
The reality? Newborns sleep in short cycles often waking up every 2-3 hours, leaving parents exhausted. Studies show that sleep deprivation contributes to post-partum depression, anxiety and decreased milk supply in breastfeeding mothers.
Prioritise rest. Forget about having a spotless house or entertaining guests your well-being is just as important as the baby’s.
3. A breastfed baby cannot be overfed
Many new mothers worry about whether their baby is getting enough milk or if they are feeding too often. But according to old age wisdom, a breastfed baby cannot be overfed and science agrees.
Breastfeeding works on a supply-and-demand basis. Unlike bottle-feeding, where measured amounts can sometimes lead to overfeeding, breastfeeding allows the baby to regulate their intake naturally.
If the baby wants to feed often, let them. Frequent feeding helps build a healthy milk supply and provides comfort.
4. Keep the house warm but not too hot
Newborns are commonly bundled up and kept warm in South African homes, especially during their first few months. There's a belief that babies are vulnerable to cold air and illness.
While keeping the baby warm is important, overheating can be dangerous. Research shows that overheating increases the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). Dress the baby one layer more than you're comfortable in and keep the room moderately warm (about 20-22°C).
Pro tip: avoid covering the baby’s face with blankets. Instead, use a light blanket or a baby sleeping bag to keep them cosy without overheating.
5. Traditional protection: Duiwelsdruppels, Harlemensis & Doepa
Many South African black households have a distinct smell when a newborn arrives Duiwelsdruppels, Harlemensis, Stuipdruppels and Doepa. These traditional remedies have been used for generations to:
- Protect babies from evil spirits
- Soothe colic and digestive issues
- Prevent restlessness and crying at night
While modern medicine doesn’t always endorse these practices, many families still swear by them. If you choose to use these remedies, always consult a healthcare professional to ensure they are safe.
Gogo’s tip: a little drop behind the ears or on the baby’s clothes is usually enough always follow traditional practices with care and wisdom.
6. Buying clothes for an unborn baby: a big no-no
One of the most deeply held beliefs in many African cultures is that buying baby clothes before the baby is born is bad luck. It is believed that doing so might attract negative energy or invite misfortune.
While some may dismiss this as superstition, there’s a practical side to it:
- Some parents prefer to wait until the baby is born to see what they actually need.
- It’s also a way to avoid unnecessary spending on items that might not be useful.
- Pro tip: if you feel the need to prepare, you can set aside money for baby essentials but wait until after birth to purchase clothing.
As modern parents, we have access to endless information but sometimes, the best advice comes from the wisdom of our elders.
Our gogos raised generations of strong, healthy children without today’s technology and their time-honoured practices still hold value.